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Men and Women’s Expectations of Sex and Intimacy in a Long-Term Relationship

2009-06-19T06:21:00.000-07:00

In a recent comment to the article Affairs of the Ego, Rachel of My Soul On Canvas, “Pictorial Prose” said that she felt “nine out of ten men are not satisfied sexually and probably equal as many women do not feel as if they are being heard” Although I can’t validate the statistics she provided, I do understand the point she is making. My thought on this is that many men feel that their sexual needs are not satisfied while many women do not believe that their need for intimacy is being met.

There are definite differences built into our culture on what men need versus what women need. These differences are widened and perpetuated by the wizards of marketing and the producers of movies, television shows and publishers of magazine.As a man I am assaulted daily with a barrage of media messages that tell me that I should be getting more sex than I am.

If you watch TV on any given evening you see a slew of commercials about erectile dysfunction and how happy you will be when you take their medicine to ensure your equipment is working at optimum performance and your mate will be even happier, because she wants you and wants you all of the time! This type of advertisement has an effect on all men, ones with ED and ones with no problems what so ever.

The message is clear, you should be getting sex all of the time and if you are not, then their must be something wrong with your relationship, because all the women in the commercials want sex so much and they are so much happier when their man’s equipment is in working order and they don’t have to wait for sex.

Our brain is funny though, while we are processing the information that these types of commercials send us, we are oblivious to the commercials for female products and there are a ton of those. There are commercials for tampons and pads, which should remind us that women, have a monthly cycle. There are also drugs to help combat the effects of mood altering hormones. There are ads for medicine that will relive the symptoms of yeast infections, etc. These ads should serve to remind us men that the female body is complicated and is affected by many things that a man does not have to consider. One would think that with as much awareness that we have about what women go through that we would have a better understanding of why we are not having sex on all of the time.

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Men and Women’s Expectations of Sex and Intimacy in a Long-Term Relationship

2009-06-19T06:20:00.000-07:00

Couple this with the fact that most men believe that sex equals intimacy and the divide between a mans needs and a woman’s needs in a long term relationship widens.

Most women crave intimacy. Intimacy is greatly misunderstood by many men, we think intimacy is being desired, which leads to sex. Men are more complex than one may think. Men love to be desired. Even if our mate cannot or does not want to have sex with us, we must be made to feel that we are desired. We must feel wanted and needed.
Intimacy for most women goes much deeper, most women want to have an intimate relationship and that intimacy extends way beyond the bedroom. True intimacy has very little to do with the physical aspect of a relationship, it has more to do with conversation, listening, caring, eye contact, subtle touching, knowing looks, thinking beyond the moment, surprise phone calls, remembering important dates, remembering conversations, cuddling, back rubs and foot rubs with no sexual expectations, sharing dreams, concerns, fears, etc. There are many ways to be intimate, however many men have a low desire for true intimacy.

Note, what I have just written about is somewhat typical, however it certainly does not apply to all men or all women.

Each individual has different needs and many of those needs cross gender roles. With that being said, our culture does have a great deal of influence on our expectations of a relationship.

One of the keys to a successful long-term relationship is to always respect and be aware of the other persons needs. We must shed our proclivity to make it all about “us” and develop an awareness of what is going on in the life of the other person and see them and our relationship with each other holistically. If there are differences in each other’s needs than we must communicate those differences. It is also important to acknowledge that in a long-term relationship our needs will evolve and it is unfair to assume that our mate will pick up on those sometimes-subtle changes. Communication is key to ensuring that we each have an understanding of the needs of each other.

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Mouth Magic

2009-02-05T04:49:00.000-08:00

As long as you don't forget these four movements, your oral sex experiences are always going to be pleasurable for both of you. And though I've said this before, I think it bears repeating once again. The joy you derive out of pleasing him is worth its weight in gold ‑- of that there is no doubt. But knowing you alone possess the ability to deliver it is likely to do more to reflect your power as a woman than anything you can even imagine. So don't overlook the pleasure you are capable of giving your lover. For many men, oral sex is one of their most satisfying experiences.

On the subject of swallowing, or allowing him to come in your mouth: your mouth, your choice; but I will say that "well-balanced nice-guy men" have said they like it because it makes them feel one of the most masculine parts of them has been accepted. Should you choose to do so, you can heighten the sensation he feels when ejaculating, either in or not in your mouth, by pulsing your now still hands wrapped around his shaft in time with the ejaculations.

If you put the steps together, it should look like this:

Use your hands to form the Ring and Seal. Remember your hand stays attached at all times to your mouth.

Move your mouth up and down the length of his shaft, while maintaining a comfortable level of suction. You won't have to create much suction as your Ring can create the sensation of suction when you do the upward stroke. At the same time, your sealed hand, the one attached to your mouth, is doing a twisting motion while you are going up and down his shaft.

Keep your tongue in constant motion, across the frenulum, and you can use either the tastebud surface or the smooth underside to create sensation.
Don't forget to mind the stepchildren. Named so by a seminar attendee because "they belong to someone else and they often get ignored," invariably his testicles like to be held, fondled and warmed in your hands or mouth, so move occasionally to lick the scrotum and testicles. Worried about hair? Gently stroke the area beforehand to remove any loose little hairs. Ask him to hold your hand on them in the way he prefers.

Let your free hand roam the rest of his body.
Look him in the eye. Consider asking him to watch you.

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Mouth Magic

2009-02-05T04:41:00.000-08:00

In her book Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them and Keep Them Coming, Lou Paget offers her best man-melting oral sex secrets. But we must warn you: Her advice may cause your guy to act strangely. He may do the dishes unprompted. He may pick up your dry cleaning. You might even catch him staring at you all googly-eyed while you're minding your own business watching TV. Think you can handle that? If so, put your vixen hat on and start taking naughty notes.

There are four main components that combine to create great oral sex. Like dancing, sometimes you put all the steps together in one move and other times you slow down the pace, but more than likely you are constantly varying your moves to the beat and according to how you feel at the moment.

It won't take long to discover that the secret to giving great oral sex is to find your "rhythm," and that rhythm, as in dancing, can and will change with each partner, depending on his specific likes and dislikes. What will ensure your success with every encounter is to remember the four different motions you use whenever performing oral sex. When and how you use them will depend on your rhythm, but the motions themselves are always the same. And FYI, the more manual you do on him the less time the oral is likely to take.

You seal your hand to your mouth in the ring shape. Or, if you want just use your mouth, but it will be more tiring.

Your mouth (with teeth covered) is moving up and down his shaft to increase length of the stimulation area for him.

Your tongue is always moving in a back-and-forth or circular motion across the frenulum area, which is the V-shaped notch at the back of the head of the penis. This allows him to feel the more textured tastebud surface throughout the experience.

Your free hand is stimulating another part of his body, such as the nipples, inner thighs, perineal area or anus, in order to broaden the area of sensual pleasure.

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Oral Sex: A Step-by-Step Guide

2009-02-05T00:47:00.000-08:00

What if he's taking too long?

The quicker he comes, the happier you're likely to be ‑- not because you don't enjoy it, but rather because it's hard work if it lasts longer than 10 or 15 minutes. Lock-jaw, hand cramps, a sore mouth ‑- even the most comfortable position can become uncomfortable after a while. To push him over the edge, unashamedly try one (or more) of the following tricks:

* Leave the lights on (so he can see what you're doing), tie your hair back, hold eye contact and let him watch your tongue
* Stimulate other areas while you go down on him
* Firmly massage the perineum (the area between his anus and testicles) by pressing two fingers firmly and making small circles
* Make noises of enjoyment
* Wrap your thumb and index finger around the shaft, about an inch above the base, and pull down
* Insert a well-lubricated finger into his anus

What do I do as he's about to climax?

As with women, it's important to maintain a steady rhythm to build excitement, so don't suddenly change techniques. As he approaches orgasm, however, step up the speed and pressure. Many men say women don't go hard or fast enough at the end (watch him masturbate and you'll see for yourself how durable that thing is!). Once he's had his orgasm, stop everything ‑- no stimulation whatsoever. Post-orgasm sensitivity doesn't just affect females.

What if I don't want to swallow?

It's perfectly acceptable to switch to intercourse just before the crucial moment. Or use your hands to masturbate him, letting him orgasm over your breasts. This, for many men, is even better than you swallowing because they can see exactly what's going on. If you've never swallowed, it's worth trying once. Swallow it quickly, as if it were medicine, and it will be over before you can say, "That wasn't so bad!" (It's not fattening by the way ‑- a mere five calories per orgasm.) Are you okay with him ejaculating in your mouth, but don't want to swallow? Simply hold it in there, then spit into a tissue or sink as soon as it's politely possible. If it tastes funny, his diet is usually to blame. Get him to cut back on salty foods, asparagus, potato chips, beer, curry, garlic, cigarettes, red meat and coffee.

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Oral Sex: A Step-by-Step Guide

2009-02-05T00:39:00.000-08:00

What do I do with my hands?

Even if he doesn't mean to, it's far too easy for him to get caught up in the excitement of the moment and put his hands on the back of your head, pushing you up and down. Give him a lecture, if not a swift kick in the bottom. It's hands off for him ‑- but hands on for you. Attempting to give great oral by only using your mouth is overly ambitious ‑- and robs him of pleasure. One hand should go around the base of the shaft to stop him from bobbing all over the place. The other hand should be used as an extension of your mouth. Slide it up and down, closing it when you reach the head, opening it slightly as you slide back down. As your tongue swirls, your hands should also work on the places your mouth can't reach, such as to cup his testicles or pinch his nipples.

Do I have to "deep throat"?

As Em and Lo put it, Deep Throat was merely a porn film with a catchy name ‑- that's all. Yet women ever since have suffered from a complex that unless you take all of him in your mouth, you're somehow failing as a dutiful girlfriend. Let me put it this way: The average throat is two to three inches deep, while the average penis is five to six inches long. You do the math ‑- it won't fit! Besides, most of the nerves are concentrated in the head of the penis, not the shaft. While it feels good psychologically to see his entire penis disappear, it's not crucial to his enjoyment. If you would like to take him deeper, stop and relax your throat muscles every half inch or so before letting him go deeper. If you gag easily, try positioning him slightly to the side of your throat instead. It will be shallower on your end ‑- and he won't notice the difference.

What if his penis smells?

Suggest that you shower together before hitting the sheets, and run soapy hands between his legs and around his scrotum. Pull back his foreskin and wash underneath.

What do I do if my mouth's too dry?

Put the underside of your tongue on the roof of your mouth and hold it there for a few minutes. This will cause saliva to pool in your mouth. Always keep a glass of room-temperature water close by or add artificial moisture by slathering him with flavored lube, honey, champagne, whipped cream or ice cream.

What do I do with the foreskin?

Using lube or saliva, moisten the area around the foreskin, then gently edge the hood down with your tongue or fingertips. You can then either hold it down at the base of the shaft or pump it up and down the shaft. Just get the hand motion under control before you add your mouth, avoid tugging and yanking, and keep things nice and slippery if you want to slide it up and over the head.

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Oral Sex: A Step-by-Step Guide

2009-02-04T23:47:00.000-08:00

Everyone knows guys are obsessed with oral sex. That's probably why sex therapists and advice columnists receive more questions about it than any other sex act. I've collected the 11 most common oral sex concerns women face ‑- so you and your man can both love every minute. Have you ever seen a grown man beg? You will.

Where do I start?

The basic technique: Cover your teeth with your lips, with your mouth in an "O" shape ‑- don't stretch your lips, though; keep them loose and soft. With one hand gripping the base of the shaft, make one smooth movement by sliding your (very wet) mouth over his erection, taking him as far into your mouth as is comfortable. Stay there for one to two seconds, then slowly slide back up to the top, making eye contact with him as you reluctantly remove your mouth. (If his eyes are rolling back into his head, you're off to a good start.)

Then ‑- to his delight ‑- start again. Slide your mouth repeatedly up and down. Use your tongue to keep everything nice and wet by swirling it around the shaft. Once you've mastered this, start using all of your tongue ‑- the top, the tip, the sides, the underneath. Try what I call a twist-and-swirl: Make a twisting motion with one hand as you slide it up and down, and swirl your tongue around the rim of the head, paying particular attention to the frenulum (the bit of skin on the underside).

Am I really supposed to suck?

No, in fact suction can sometimes feel uncomfortable for him. Instead, simply slide his penis in and out of your mouth while staying as close to it as possible. The keys are confidence (pretend you know exactly what you're doing even if you don't have a clue) and enjoyment (lots of mmmms, groans and enthusiastic explorative licks).

How do I stop gagging?

Check your position. Forget lying beside him, and instead get him to stand while you sit facing him on the side of the bed (or an appropriate-height piece of furniture). Not only will it be more comfortable for both of you, but it also gives you control over how deeply he thrusts into your mouth. Alternatively, try kneeling in front of him while he stands. It's the classic "submissive" pose, but don't forget that you're still the boss of the proceedings.

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